#MeToo, Weinstein, and Real Stories

See my latest post on Medium. Here’s a preview:


Harvey Weinstein is outed. Women all over the world are revealing their abuse at his hands. Too soon after that, the criticism starts — not of the predator, but of his prey.

“Why didn’t she speak up?”

“Why did she go to to the hotel.”

“She must have wanted it.”

Someone eventually utters that age-old excuse for misogyny, “they asked for it.”

Today, however, those words are the catalyst for a social media movement where #MeToo was born. The stories are from everyone and everywhere, and the black community is not exempt.

Read more at Medium.

Fresh off the Presses!

Here are some new work published in recent weeks. I am posting from newest to oldest. The first was freshly published today!

This Mama is Tapping Out: The NRA, Gun Lobby, or President Trump Can Explain This Mass Shooting My Kids

From Medium.


From Wear You Voice Magazine


When my son was five, we signed him up to play America’s game. No not baseball—football! It was the Pop Warner League, which worked to teach young boys the basic football skills. I remember spending August through October at the side of the field with other parents (because the coach had threatened us at orientation with “the boot” if we wandered onto his field during practice and games) as we watched the tiny guys clad in tanks, tees, and cleats running around the field like little bobbleheads in their helmets. The coach, whose kid was also on the team, told us that he only had a few goals for the boys that year:

  •    To learn respect for adults
  •    To learn to work as a team
  •    To learn the basics of football
  •    To form a straight, unmoving line on the field…


On Wear Youn Voice Magazine

There used to be only one way to get my three girls, ages 2, 4, and 6 to settle down long enough to give me a break. I would pop in a DVD of The Powerpuff Girls cartoons or turn to a marathon on Cartoon Network. The girls would watch the show, mesmerized by the colors, the story, and the action for at least a half hour.

They each had a designated Powerpuff Girl. The oldest was Blossom, the four-year-old was Buttercup, and the youngest was always Bubbles. They would keep these parts for years, and act out their own fights for the safety of Townsville in my living room. Many a lamp and three couches were sacrificed to the cause….



View story at Medium.com

View story at Medium.com

I Will Not Let Your Affirmative Action Ignorance Belittle My Daughter’s Acheivement

My latest for Washington Post. Let me know what you think.

“Let me set the record straight … ” is how I began a Facebook post on the day after President Trump announced that he would investigate colleges for discrimination against white applicants. Using the term “white rights,” the announcement was a thinly veiled promise to go after Affirmative Action. That policy, which stems from the Civil Rights Act of 1964, is a remedy to discrimination by increasing the underrepresented classes on a campus.

This administration’s statement on discrimination against white applicants is yet another illustration of the myth of affirmative action: that white applicants are rejected and their spots are given to less qualified women and people of color. The move was also another presidential green light for racists to once again start attacking black culture.

For the  rest, visit On Parenting at the Washington Post




GOT on BGN!!!

I am reflecting on GOT on BGN. Follow me.

I am declaring Samwell Tarly the winner of the first episode of Season 7 of Game of Thrones.

Why? I know he didn’t win a kingdom. He wasn’t even fresh from battle. GOT’s most famous nerd, however, did succeed in his mission, which was the most important of anything any of the characters did in that first episode.

Samwell Tarly spent most of “Dragonstone” cleaning chamber pots and trying not to gag. He was there for the long game, a mission his best [jock friend] Jon sent him on long before the former Keeper of the Watch became the King of the North. As Arya continues her kill list, Cersei contemplates her next move, and Dany begins her surprise attack on Westeros, Sam has the real fight in mind and is biding his time until he can make his own contribution.

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A study found adults see black girls as ‘less innocent,’ shocking everyone but black moms

My latest.



A Georgetown University study showing that black girls in the United States are perceived by adults as much less innocent than white girls has created a lot of buzz this summer. The study released last month, “Girlhood Interrupted: The Erasure of Black Girls’ Childhood,” identifies several well-researched reasons for the disparity. Black girls, according to the study, are adultified, sexualized and deemed overly aggressive from a young age.

This news was a shock to everyone but black mothers, who live with this truth every day…

Continued on Washington Post


How Queen Sugar Turns the Stereotype of the Drug-Addicted Black Mother on Its Head

Queen Sugar embodies many of the elements of a real black family in the Bordelon siblings, Ralph Angel (Kofi Siriboe), Charlie (Dawn-Lyen Gardener) and Nova (Rutina Wesley)—elements that I can identify with, or thought I could until I encountered Darla (Bianca Lawson), Ralph Angel’s ex. She’s introduced in the pilot episode, when Ralph Angel calls her after his father (Glynn Turman) dies. She talks nervously about a job and wanting to see her son, Blue (Ethan Hutchison)….

Get the rest of the article at Paste Magazine