I Will Not Let Your Affirmative Action Ignorance Belittle My Daughter’s Acheivement

My latest for Washington Post. Let me know what you think.

“Let me set the record straight … ” is how I began a Facebook post on the day after President Trump announced that he would investigate colleges for discrimination against white applicants. Using the term “white rights,” the announcement was a thinly veiled promise to go after Affirmative Action. That policy, which stems from the Civil Rights Act of 1964, is a remedy to discrimination by increasing the underrepresented classes on a campus.

This administration’s statement on discrimination against white applicants is yet another illustration of the myth of affirmative action: that white applicants are rejected and their spots are given to less qualified women and people of color. The move was also another presidential green light for racists to once again start attacking black culture.

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GOT on BGN!!!

I am reflecting on GOT on BGN. Follow me.

I am declaring Samwell Tarly the winner of the first episode of Season 7 of Game of Thrones.

Why? I know he didn’t win a kingdom. He wasn’t even fresh from battle. GOT’s most famous nerd, however, did succeed in his mission, which was the most important of anything any of the characters did in that first episode.

Samwell Tarly spent most of “Dragonstone” cleaning chamber pots and trying not to gag. He was there for the long game, a mission his best [jock friend] Jon sent him on long before the former Keeper of the Watch became the King of the North. As Arya continues her kill list, Cersei contemplates her next move, and Dany begins her surprise attack on Westeros, Sam has the real fight in mind and is biding his time until he can make his own contribution.

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A study found adults see black girls as ‘less innocent,’ shocking everyone but black moms

My latest.



A Georgetown University study showing that black girls in the United States are perceived by adults as much less innocent than white girls has created a lot of buzz this summer. The study released last month, “Girlhood Interrupted: The Erasure of Black Girls’ Childhood,” identifies several well-researched reasons for the disparity. Black girls, according to the study, are adultified, sexualized and deemed overly aggressive from a young age.

This news was a shock to everyone but black mothers, who live with this truth every day…

Continued on Washington Post


How Queen Sugar Turns the Stereotype of the Drug-Addicted Black Mother on Its Head

Queen Sugar embodies many of the elements of a real black family in the Bordelon siblings, Ralph Angel (Kofi Siriboe), Charlie (Dawn-Lyen Gardener) and Nova (Rutina Wesley)—elements that I can identify with, or thought I could until I encountered Darla (Bianca Lawson), Ralph Angel’s ex. She’s introduced in the pilot episode, when Ralph Angel calls her after his father (Glynn Turman) dies. She talks nervously about a job and wanting to see her son, Blue (Ethan Hutchison)….

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Today I spent too much time worried about a damn Twitter Troll. This woman was so determined to put me in my place that she ranted for four posts! Her problem. 

I used first person pronouns way too much and she didn’t like it.

America. Readers. Fellow writers. Don’t you EVER fix your cursor or your mouth to criticize a work with “I don’t like it.” It is:

  1. Obtuse
  2. Selfish
  3. Pointless
  4. Not constuctive
  5. And not actionable.

You tell me that something in my writing stinks and you “don’t like it” then how is that going to help me as a writer? You gave no specific rule broken or even a fix. Dafuq, man. 

Furthermore, what good did those words do by being spoken? Help you feel better? Well thats selfish because you are not rhe writer and you have no stake in the story. So try again, why did you even have to speak those words? The answer is, you don’t.  

By coming into my space where my words are and typing “I don’t like it” you are pissing all over my product for your own satisfaction. Whatever problem you have with me or my work is your own and has nothing to do with me. 

So, before you go and type some form of “I don’t like it” as a critique of someone’s writing, ask yourself:

  1. Are your words helpful?
  2. Do they offer a solution?
  3. Do they even point to a problem?
  4. Do you even have a stake in this writings existence? 

If you cant answer yes to more than one of these questions, then your problem is not with the writing. Your problem is in your own damn head and you almost trolled a writer.

Know better. Do better.